First Contract working on a Cruise Ship #SecondHalf

This is going to be a shorter blog post…short but sweet as I definitely had some of the most memorable and best times here! I cannot compared to my first half of my contract but it definitely was different in a lot of good ways!

I arrive in San Juan, Puerto Rico on the 4th July at around 10am so I get checked into my hotel and have the whole day and night to explore before I sign on my new ship the next day. I did explore a bit along the beach as it was 4th of July…everyone was celebrating. However, I was exhausted and was straight back to work the next day so I crashed and slept in my hotel….good idea by me!

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All the feelings came back the next morning…anxious, nervous, worried but overall I was so excited to get back into the swing of things!

 

 

The places I visited multiple times on this part of my contract were:

  • San Juan, Puerto Rico
  • Kings Wharf, Bermuda
  • Philipsburg, St Maarten Island, Dutch Antilles
  • New York, Cape Liberty NYC
  • Labadee, Haiti
  • Boston, Massachusetts
  • Portland, Maine
  • Bar Harbor, Maine
  • Saint John, New Brunswick, Canada
  • Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada

At first arriving on the ship, dealing with change was hard. I would go to places on the ship that would look the same on my last ship but different people…it was weird and not the same. It didn’t help I had a temporary cabin for a cruise when I first got there so I couldn’t exactly settle as I knew I was moving as soon as a cabin became available. However, it became the best decision to get transferred and really helped me with my confidence and belief that I could deal with change and adjust in new environments easily. Luckily I did know a few people from my last ship which helped massively….I do LOVE a good reunion after thinking I would never see these people again.

I became so close to all the people on this ship and I met some life-long friends on here. It was such a close family and I was able to experience more incredible places. So many stories and memories to share I couldn’t fit into one blog post but all these people know how incredible the life was on this ship despite some stressful times in the work environment we all pulled together.

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” – Anais Nin

 

Anthem of the Seas July 5th 2016-October 29th 2016: YOU WERE INCREDIBLE ❤

Lots of Love to all you guys who I met…I will see you around the world!

Ship life has its’ ups and downs. Looking at my pictures you may think I don’t work but we do…every day! Long hours, but we are grateful for everything and everyone around us. We become a family on the ship which I love the most. You live and work together, different nationalities, cultures, everyone is away from their normal life ….but it works. A big dysfunctional family and I couldn’t ask for anything better.

Check out my Youtube video of my full contract HERE

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Cruise Division Anthem of the Seas 2016

Dealing with Change

Change can be hard in life regardless of how big or small, it can be to do with change in routine, habits, careers, friends, environment etc etc. It has always been hard for me to deal with changes in life in which I have no control over. For me personally, I used to associate any change happening in my life equaled a struggle controlling the anxiety, worry, self-doubt and panic. A overwhelming rush of negative thoughts going in to my head. My fear of change used to get so intense that I would have a complete panic if something as simple as my days routine got changed as I felt a loss of control. 

However, over time I have been able to change my thought process for the better in dealing with change. I have realised change is associated with positivity rather than negativity….it is what makes life interesting!!!! Even if you expected some change in your life but the change didn’t turn out how you expected it…don’t think that you have made the wrong decision….embrace the change as something positive will always come out of it. You could be reading this and think it is all nonsense, but I believe by going with the changes with an open mind and losing the fear of taking new challenges can massively improve yourself as a person, for example greater confidence, facing fears, new life skills and positively changing your mindset. 

“You can’t always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.” – Wayne Dyer

In this blog post I am going to write about the things I have done over the years to keep calm when unexpected changes occur in my life or when known changes have happened but they haven’t always turned out as expected. Lets say ok, you have experienced some changes in your life which you are finding hard to deal with….you are worrying, self-doubting, feeling a failure and panicking. What if you can’t change what has happened….how do you deal with it?

1.Practice Gratitude 

Throughout the day I try and think about what I am grateful for in my life. This is normally triggered when I feel negative thoughts try and creep in, but it is good if you do this everyday even when you are feeling on top of the world. When change occurred I used to feel every negative thought possible…I literally reacted like the world was going to end. By taking 5 minutes to think about what I am grateful for in life, even the simplest of things like ‘I am grateful to live around beautiful nature’ or ‘I am grateful to have a family and friends’ automatically feeds positive thoughts into my brain therefore opening my mind more to what is really important in life. 

2. Have ‘me’ time

Despite the importance of socialising, I am definitely a person who enjoys having some ‘me’ time. Just to have time to zone out to get into a different world by writing, reading, listening to music, meditating or going to the gym. By giving yourself this time is giving yourself some compassion and self-care, to calm your emotions and feel to how you are really feeling. This time allows you to put your guard down and face your emotions head on rather than allowing your emotions to bottle up and take control. 

3. Read quotes

As many people know….I love a good quote and love reading positive articles. Why not feed your brain with quotes that you can relate, feel good after reading, feel some inspiration and purpose in life!!! Even though change has happened or change is coming, research some quotes to help you deal with it!

4. Talk 

Harder said than done but it is great to speak up to someone you trust when you may be struggling to deal with change. By talking and expressing your emotions allow you to release them so you can start thinking more clearly. I have lost count of how many times I have rang my mum in pure panic and feeling distressed over changes happening in my life, but this has always been the best way for me (probably not the best for my mum though) by talking about how I am feeling, as normally the more i start talking the more I think how silly and unappreciative I sound. 

5. Believe 

If you have changed jobs, changed environment, changed friendship groups, changed schools etc etc, you may have feelings of self-doubt in how you are going to cope. Change can be scary but all you have to do is believe you can do something, if you can’t then who cares. You learn something new and move on. Making mistakes = learning experiences = new skills = positive outcome. When I am feeling a lack of self-belief I close my eyes, breathe in and out, and tell myself I can do it over and over again. Totally cliche but it works! Giving myself a little pep talk provides me with a mental visual image that I can cope with change providing me with greater positivity, confidence and belief.

“When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.”

6. List the positives 

Sit down and list all the positive outcomes or potential outcomes that can come with this change happening in your life. It may help you become a stronger person, teach you not to give up and take you out of your comfort zone to help you cope with future changes. Changes may be scary but life is full of changes which makes life more exciting and unpredictable. 

7. Let go of control 

The feelings of anxiety, worry, panic and self-doubt are all a result of change when you feel like you have lost control. As soon as you have so much control over your life, once that is broken down it can feel like your life has broken down. I used to be a person that enjoyed planning my day every day, but it got to the point it was a habit to write a step by step plan basically of my day to detail. What happened if someone rang me to hang out last minute? My answer would be No. What if work rang me up to cover a shift? My answer would be No. To the point….it was ridiculous and made me missed out on good memories and new opportunities. I now have to say by practicing feeling calm, knowing the importance of feeling calm and feeling positivity about change I now have let go of the intense control over my life. I enjoy spontaneous and unexpected things happening in my life…I grab it with both hands and embrace the ride. 

8. Smile

Short and simple…..by smiling even when you are feeling anxious about change it will automatically put you in a more positive mood. Why dampen your mood because something has become different in your life. You may not be able to control your life but you can control your mind. 

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou

I hope this helps.

Speak Soon x

‘Live Free..Live a Journey’